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Shopping with my wife goes something like this: I start having holes in my t-shirts so I decide to finally go. Within 5 minutes I have picked everything, paid, attempted to leave etc. But then something magical happens, she somehow manages to convince me she needs this this and that, and we spent 90 minutes shopping for her. I think she should have been a politician.

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Nov 19, 2023Liked by Clancy Steadwell

Same shopping scenario for me. I don't know where our women find the patience.

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Neither do I. Thanks for reading Mr. Cummings.

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What a beautifully written story. I was smiling all the way.

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Dec 16, 2023Liked by Clancy Steadwell

Loved the simplicity of this story. Very heartwarming to know that it’s not only me who feels that when I go to the Kohls dressing room. My wife has the small role as Rachel, except that I get more veto powers because I’m never happy with my selection, and accordingly to my wife I choose exactly what she says Yes to.

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Thanks for reading Raj, I’m glad you can relate to David’s and Rachel’s process! It is very simple, isn’t it? Sometimes life’s smallest tasks are big adventures. Check out some of my other stories or subscribe for similar themes!

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This was the first piece of yours I've read and I absolutely loved it. My own memories of the computer lab came flooding back and you got me laughing quite a few times throughout. Thanks for this, great piece!

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Thank you Peter! I read one of yours earlier and I think we both like to explore memory and how comes back to us. Much appreciated.

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You're very welcome, and yes my Substack project is certainly very much about remembering.

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I'm not married but I learned so much about relationships in such a small amount of time, and through a great story too.

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Thanks Mr. Lalljee, what a great compliment! Glad you enjoyed.

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Jan 3Liked by Clancy Steadwell

It is well deserved Mr. Steadwell

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1. She suggests, I say yes ma’am no ma’am whatever you say ma’am

2. Often and without apology

3. No shoes, no shirt, no service

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Three great suggestions for life in general. Thanks for reading Mr. Hilgendorf.

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Very nice piece, I enjoyed it! Tight and well written and you have your own voice

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Nov 19, 2023Liked by Clancy Steadwell

1. My husband is a PE teacher, so his wardrobe is athletic casual. He can handle that part without my help. If there's a dressy affair, I'll weigh in on the four or so combinations of pants/shirts/blazers he's accumulated over the years. And the few articles of clothing he owns that aren't warmup pants and polo shirts, I just outright bought for him without his input. 😂

2. Oh, I'm sure I peed my pants at some point, though I don't have any tragic memories associated with it. I don't like khaki pants either. I've worked a number of jobs that required me to wear them. I just think they look awful on everyone, and you can never find them easily outside of the Memorial Day to Labor Day window. I weirdly miss corduroys. As a mom, I now willingly embrace leggings and yoga pants as appropriate for most occasions.

3. Men have it easy!!! They can literally wear the same thing to 10 different weddings, and no one will notice. Women have to buy a new dress for every occasion in fear that the guests will REMEMBER they already wore something once before. I don't worry about this anymore. I own like six dresses, and I just rotate them. But I cared when I was younger. I also hate high-heels and haven't worn them since college. Pretty sure I wore Keds under my wedding dress.

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No input!? Haha, at least David in the story got some vetos!

Great point about the women’s dress code, I think most men would crumple under such expectation.

Thanks for reading Meg, and don’t forget -- you’re never too old to traumatize yourself by being your pants.

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Nov 19, 2023Liked by Clancy Steadwell

Yes, somewhat similar to you. I have to be in a very specific mood to shop for clothes. I like clothes, but the vast array of possibilities is too much for me, plus good, ethical clothes are fairly expensive. My ideal scenario is to have enough money to just pay for a personal shopper say twice a year.

Yes, when I was very young and we moved house and for some reason felt I needed to ask permission from my mother to go to the new-house toilet, yet my mother was off unpacking somewhere.

Went to a wedding earlier this year and their stipulation was essentially wear whatever you want. It was most refreshing.

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Hey, similar pee-permission situation to the story. I wonder how many kids have had similar experiences! Thanks for reading Mr. Slake.

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The older I get, despite how many books I’ve read or life I’ve led, the more I realize I was fully formed as who I am and ever will be in those first 12-15 years of life. This piece captures that.

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So glad I bottled that sentiment. I totally agree.

I think that, whatever happens in those years, every emotion is so deep and poignant, the novelty of everything makes a drama that underpins who we are going forward.

Thanks for reading Mr. Smith.

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The connection between now and childhood is fantastic 🖤

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Thanks Dr. Waller. I explored a similar structure and theme in my last post so I was a little hesitant to repeat it. Instead I decided to lean into it and plan on making some other posts that do the same.

Glad you enjoyed that aspect!

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I think it’s amazing the way the seemingly trivial things of childhood can affect this. It really works.

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1. Old Navy

2. Daily

3. Bullocks

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Apr 8Liked by Clancy Steadwell

a beautiful piece!

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Thank you for reading Husun!

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